Why being a young mum didn’t ruin my life

Being a mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you gained from having one’.

Screen Shot 2017-08-26 at 14.23.06

It’s been a rollercoaster of a 3 years and yet, I would not change a thing. Not a single part. We have learnt so much about ourselves and we are a stronger family than ever. Don’t get me wrong, being at university while having a baby has been one of the hardest decisions that I have ever made. Not including all of the obstacles we have faced along the way. But, I would do it all again to achieve what I want.

Screen Shot 2017-08-26 at 14.22.56

I’m not saying a degree certificate is the most important thing in the world, but it was important to me. Everybody has their own ambitions and you will get there in the end. Having children earlier than expected changes nothing. You can still do exactly what you want to do. I feel like a real winner as I have achieved exactly what I want and I even got the biggest reward of all. My little boy right by my side the whole way.

Screen Shot 2017-08-26 at 14.23.12

I never thought I would be sitting here writing this today but I achieved a 2:1 in my Early Childhood Studies degree at Teesside University. To most people, I am a girl called Sophie that graduated from university while having a baby. But to Joshua, I am his mummy that graduated from university. That means more to me than anything. I much prefer my new title. Being a mummy has been the biggest achievement of all and no one could ever take that away from me.

Screen Shot 2017-08-26 at 14.22.40

Graduation day couldn’t have been more perfect. It was so emotional. There were many times throughout the three years that I thought there was no chance on this earth that I will be graduating. But i did. And, I loved every minute of it.

I was lucky to share my graduation day with not only my amazing mum, dad and fiancé by my side but also the biggest part of my university experience. My special little Joshua.

Screen Shot 2017-08-26 at 14.23.24

Falling pregnant at 19 was terrifying, I may have met my Joshua a little early than expected but I guess it just means I get to love him a little longer. Joshua has far from ruined my life. Our life starts here and I cannot wait for what the future holds for us all. For now, I have decided to put myself through one more year of hell. I am going back to university in September to do my Primary PGCE. Hopefully this time next year, I will not only be a mummy but also a qualified SEN primary school teacher.

Please believe in yourself. You can achieve anything you want to do. And do not forget, young mums are just as capable as anyone else so please believe in them too.

All my love as always,

Sophie xx


43 thoughts on “Why being a young mum didn’t ruin my life

  1. What a beautiful post. Well done to you!! Just goes to show you can always achieve your dreams as long as your willing to work for it! Xx


  2. Congratulations love, I loved this post so much. This has me looking forward to going back to school in the next year. I can’t wait to receive my B.A. 3 semesters to go and I’m already excited even though it’s so far!


  3. “young mums are just as capable as anyone” it is true indeed. I was pregnant at 24, though my few friends were still working or studying but I gave up job just to have family and now I would say at young age I can take care of my baby with so much determination!


  4. Yours is a very inspiring story, Sophie! Especially for people who feel that women, with children, are better off taking care of them at home than working or studying! I am sure so many young woman will have so much to learn from your story!
    Bravo to you! Best wishes for your future! 🙂


    1. Thank you so much for this lovely comment!! I really hope so, i want women to feel like they can achieve what ever they want in life. Having a baby doesn’t stop you, if anything they are a reason to work hard X

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Congratulations on your degree! Going to college while being a Mommy is not one bit easy. I graduated with my associates degree when my son was 10 months old…I was 24 when he was born. Your determination is inspiring 🙂


  6. Wow! Just think if had done it sooner you wouldn’t have been able to share the graduation memory with you son and husband. I’m so excited and proud of you and I don’t even know you 😀 Your son is adorable! Is he always so joyful? He most likely is. 😀 Thank you for following my blog and for sharing your life with all of us.


    1. That’s exactly how I look at it. I feel incredibly lucky that I was able to share my special day with my little family. Aw, thank you so much. Yes, he is always joyful, his smile is everything. Thank you for your comment and following back, can’t wait to read your blogs. X


  7. Congratulations!! I can relate to your story! I had my first my freshman year of college. I have yet to finish, but you are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing. 👏🏽


  8. Good for you for making it all work! I also had both my children while in school. I was 2 years into my Ph.D program when I found out I was pregnant with our daughter. Then brilliantly chose to have our second before defending my thesis. I have a toddler and a baby with me in my graduation photos. I also had a husband who was incredible supportive and would not have been able to finish my program without his help (or conceive the daughter and son :), hehe). A number of people told me to just take the master’s degree and quit because it was so tough. I don’t quite even when I should. I am happy today and all the work paid off. It will for you too!


  9. I’m a bit late to reading this, but I’m so glad I have finally found something SO relatable! I had my little girl in the summer last year at just 18. I’ve just received my offer to study Early Childhood to (like you) become a primary teacher. It’s amazing to be shown that it is achievable, and that I can 100% graduate if I put my mind to it. Thank you for reassuring me! You should be so proud of what you’ve achieved from having your baby to graduation itself!! X


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s