‘Being a mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you gained from having one’.
It’s been a rollercoaster of a 3 years and yet, I would not change a thing. Not a single part. We have learnt so much about ourselves and we are a stronger family than ever. Don’t get me wrong, being at university while having a baby has been one of the hardest decisions that I have ever made. Not including all of the obstacles we have faced along the way. But, I would do it all again to achieve what I want.
I’m not saying a degree certificate is the most important thing in the world, but it was important to me. Everybody has their own ambitions and you will get there in the end. Having children earlier than expected changes nothing. You can still do exactly what you want to do. I feel like a real winner as I have achieved exactly what I want and I even got the biggest reward of all. My little boy right by my side the whole way.
I never thought I would be sitting here writing this today but I achieved a 2:1 in my Early Childhood Studies degree at Teesside University. To most people, I am a girl called Sophie that graduated from university while having a baby. But to Joshua, I am his mummy that graduated from university. That means more to me than anything. I much prefer my new title. Being a mummy has been the biggest achievement of all and no one could ever take that away from me.
Graduation day couldn’t have been more perfect. It was so emotional. There were many times throughout the three years that I thought there was no chance on this earth that I will be graduating. But i did. And, I loved every minute of it.
I was lucky to share my graduation day with not only my amazing mum, dad and fiancé by my side but also the biggest part of my university experience. My special little Joshua.
Falling pregnant at 19 was terrifying, I may have met my Joshua a little early than expected but I guess it just means I get to love him a little longer. Joshua has far from ruined my life. Our life starts here and I cannot wait for what the future holds for us all. For now, I have decided to put myself through one more year of hell. I am going back to university in September to do my Primary PGCE. Hopefully this time next year, I will not only be a mummy but also a qualified SEN primary school teacher.
Please believe in yourself. You can achieve anything you want to do. And do not forget, young mums are just as capable as anyone else so please believe in them too.
All my love as always,